Do you feel uneasy when you don’t check your phone after every 10 minutes? Do you feel the need to pick up phone the moment it rings? You can’t say no to any social event even when you have other important work to do? Refreshing the instagram again and again so you don’t miss out anything? If you can connect to all these situations, then definitely you are experiencing FOMO.
HOW TO DEFINE FOMO PLAGUE?
It is fear or felling of anxiety that you are missing out some interesting event, social gathering that others is attending. It is continuous desire to be connected to others on social networking site, so that you don’t miss out. You fell that every one is having great and happening life except you. People chilling out with their friends, having drinks and food at lavish places makes you feel uncomfortable and unhappy.
With advent of technology, it has made easy for us to be connected to our near and dear ones sitting in far distant places. But the same technology is distancing us from people close to us at same time. We all are busy in our social networking life that we forget to talk to person sitting next to us.
Internet plague is not only dangerous for your physical health but also disturbing you mentally, as continuous desire to do everything and being everywhere all time because of fear of missing out. Check for your symptoms:
1. CAN’T KEEP PHONE OUT OF SIGHT AND HAND:
In early age food, air, shelter and water were considered basic necessities of life but now phone and social networking life have become part of these necessities. Today one can not get phone out of sight and hand. You get so obsessed that attending every call and replying to every message moment it rings become your first priority. This obsession leads to FOMO. The ‘FEAR’ word associated with FOMO makes you sick to technology.
2. FEEL REGRETFUL AND SAD ON MISSING SOME EVENT:
Due to jammed schedule, you can’t attend friend’s party and next morning your timeline is full of post and photos of party. That night you could not have sound sleep just because you keep imagining fun all your friends will be doing without you. But the reality behind that instagram story was party that was so boring and unexciting expect for moment they all posed for. This fear makes you regretful and sad about your decision of missing out party. Here FOMO takes over you.
3. URGE TO GO EVERYWHERE AND DO EVERYTHING:
The main symptom of FOMO is the desire to be at every social event or party and to do everything that others are doing. Watching every movie your friends had gone to see even though it’s not even worth; signing up at every social site, facebook, twitter, instagram, LinkedIn, pin interest and every news letter because all your friends have singned up. Got invitation from two or three events and you agreed to attend all. You get stressed you cannot keep up with your schedule and you start finding excuses for not doing something you promised.
4. REFRESHING AND RELOADING:
You checked your social account 2 minutes ago and again unlocking your phone to check it again for some new updates. This is FOMO getting on your nerves that makes you keep checking. Your friends traveling to amazing places, getting hitched, displaying best clothes and luxuries that makes you uncomfortable and unsatisfied with your own life. Do remember that every one puts their best photos on social networking sites that are sometimes not real just reel.
WAYS TO GET OVER THIS FEAR OF MISSING OUT?
FOMO is widespread now and every person having phone and internet is suffering from it but only its severity varies. Admitting that you suffer from FOMO is first step toward curing it. After identifying these symptoms, try these methods to get rid of it.
1. ADMITTING YOU HAVE FOMO:
Human nature is resistant to accepting its fears and weakness. But the real strength does not lie in ignoring but accepting your weakness and working on it to get rid of it. Accept you suffer from FOMO; try to distant yourself from people and technology that makes you suffer.
2. DON’T DOUBT YOUR DECISIONS:
Never doubt yourself regarding you decisions be it as small as missing out some event or party or as big as choice of career or study you pursue. Never use these words “I am a looser” or “what if I have chosen that”. Be confident and try to make worth out of all you have.
3. STOP COMPARING WITH OTHERS:
It’s Well said “Grass looks greener on other side of fence”. It’s true you always feels others have better life, resources, relationships and enjoy their life to hilt than you, but don’t forget they too have problems, doubt, bad relations which cannot be judged from reel photographs of social networking sites they post with sparkling smiles on faces, that outshines problems they face in real world.
4. DON’T OVERUSE PHONE:
Please get this harmful thing out of sight at least for some time. It is the main reason for your feeling of anxiety and discomfort. People today forgets what going out on vacations or break really means; it’s basically to get connected with family and friends and explore natural beauty but what people really do is post pictures and get indulge in likes and comments instead of enjoying.