Parenting is one of the toughest jobs on earth. We as parents, are busy working and shaping our child into a person we want them to be. We want our children to be well behaved, intelligent, brave and good at everything; and in doing so, we sometimes become stubborn and ignore their feelings. We often forget to teach them how to express their feelings and emotions if they fail at anything or are having a hard time. Due to this, they start hesitating and stop sharing their emotions. This is where we fail as parents.
Here are few tips that can help you make your bond with your children stronger:
OFTEN SAY I LOVE YOU
Yes, these magical words can set everything right. Saying these words often to your children creates a sense of being loved and secure. Yes, it is a great feeling. Just as plants need water and sunlight for nourishment, children need love for their mental nourishment.
JAADU KI JHAPPI(HUGGING)
Hugging is the best stress reliever medicine. Hugging release Oxytocin hormone in the body that helps in fighting stress and boosts confidence. Snuggle your child in the morning and at night. Hug your kids before sending them to school and especially after returning. This may prove to be a big stress reliever. They might start sharing all their good and bad experiences at school. Don’t ignore this.
“Well done!”,” Proud of you”; these words boost their confidence and help them to achieve much more and do better next time. Never discourage your child even if he/she makes a small effort like making a piece of art, any project or helping you with household work. Support your children even in their mistakes and failures.
HELP THEM EXPLORE WHAT MAKES THEM HAPPY
Life is not always about being good in science or math. Try teaching your kids other activities that they may have interest in, like painting, dancing or cooking. This will help them explore what makes them happy and joyful.
WELCOME FEELING AND EMOTIONS
Sometimes children don’t know how to express their feeling of being scared or feeling lonely and upset. But they may use ANGER to express it. Being parents, you need to welcome their emotions and must try to find out the reason for the tears and fears the they are hiding behind their anger.